Probably not the best choice in a workout partner.

Having a partner in crime when you exercise is almost always a good idea. It’s that “almost” facet that the authors of a new book, Influencer: The Power to Change Anything examine. Joseph Grenny, author of Influencer, says, “Our research shows our friends have enormous influence over our success – whether for better or worse. The trick is knowing who to spend time with and who to ignore as you try to accomplish your goals.”

This notion of having to distance yourself from people who will detract from your health and wellness goals is tricky to address.  Whether these folks actively impede your efforts with criticism or undermine them with enabling (or re-enabling) bad habits, they’re not doing you any favors. The closer the folks are – such as members of your family or partner – the harder this can be. However, fitness is by its very nature a little bit selfish – you’re making yourself healthier, and nobody else can do that for you.

Since it’s creeping up on resolution time (and I don’t mean 1920×1080), it might be a good idea to begin thinking about how your interactions with various people contribute to (or detract from) reaching your goals. It might also be an opportunity to consider which role you might be playing for the folks around you – maybe you’re an inspiration, or maybe you’re a warning. In either case, here are some suggestions for setting yourself up to succeed as the calendar prepares to flip over.

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